Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Foreign.
[00:00:04] Hi there, it's Tracy. Welcome back to flirting after 40.
[00:00:08] I missed you guys last week.
[00:00:11] I given you a heads up. I went to Vegas.
[00:00:18] It's funny to say, like, I went to Vegas to relax, but it was spring break the week before my kids were home. We did a little staycay, but, but for any parent that knows what it's like having your kids home during the week when you're trying to work and it's not really like summer vacation where they're settled in, they're like, they want to do all the things, envy all the places.
[00:00:46] So it was just a long, it was a long week.
[00:00:51] And honestly, like, I love my, I love my children, but I, they're kind of gross.
[00:01:03] They're gross. And I'm a really clean person.
[00:01:07] I, I even as a kid, like, if I had anxiety or was stressed or, you know, a big test was coming up, like I would clean my room, I was, or I would organize something. I had to have things put away in order to have the space to like, just be.
[00:01:27] And you know, I have kids, I have two boys now. So my house is not that it is tidy most of the time, but. And I want them to be able to live their lives how they want.
[00:01:42] So if there's toys all over the living room floor, that's fine. If there's basketballs everywhere and shoes everywhere, okay, fine, I can, I can get over this. But sometimes their messiness goes far beyond that.
[00:02:02] And so before I went to Vegas, it was, I don't know, 10 o' clock at night one night, and I was getting ready to go to bed and I was like, fuck, let me just like peek in their rooms because normally their doors are just shut. Let me just peek in their room and like, see how bad they are.
[00:02:20] And when I'm saying their rooms were disgusting, I am not exaggerating.
[00:02:27] And they're, and this is my fault. Like, I will say, like, I fucked up in my parenting because I let them, you know, take food up to their room. I let them, when they have friends up there, they can have snacks and drinks. And I, I really like, it's their space. I want them to be able to enjoy it. I don't, I don't want to be so controlling that, that they, they can't and they don't have the ability to, to do that. But I walked in and I'm not kidding, I about lost. Well, I lost my fucking mind so bad that like, I got a garbage bag and I filled up the entire garbage bag with Shit and wrappers and leftover food and cans and drinks from my oldest room, who was 14.
[00:03:26] And I was. And that's not counting the dishes that I picked up. It's not counting the clothes that were on the floor, the blankets, the. The smell.
[00:03:37] The smell of the room.
[00:03:39] Anyways, I.
[00:03:44] I lost it a little bit. And I, like, I recorded myself yelling at him with the bag of garbage. And I'm gonna post. It's not a very flattering video, but it's kind of fucking funny. So I'm gonna post it on my Instagram, you guys, to check out. So I'm going to post it as soon as this episode drops. So please go watch it and let me know. And you know what? I.
[00:04:16] I sent the video to him, and he did not respond.
[00:04:23] I sent the video to his dad as well, and I was like, if this is going on at your house, like, I'm sorry, but, like, I'm shutting this down.
[00:04:35] And the next day or the day after, whenever I got him next, he gets in his car, in my car with two of his friends, and I'm like, silas. Oh, well, you guys already know his name.
[00:04:52] I was like, you didn't respond to my video of the in your room. And he's like, yeah, mom, sorry. Like, yeah, I'll do better.
[00:05:03] And so I, like, showed the video to his friends with him, and it, like, came on my Bluetooth. So, like, my voice was very loud.
[00:05:15] And in the. You're in the video. I'm like, this is the. That's in your room. And I'm like, mad, but I think, um, you know, like, in my head, I'm like, I want him to physically see how angry I am and to see the shit that, like, came out of his room. It was so gross.
[00:05:35] And, you know, it's a good. It'll be a good reminder to him when he has kids and he's mad about his kids being messy or graduation day when it's like, I don't know. So.
[00:05:51] Yeah. And like. So that night I go to bed, and I'm still, like, kind of fired up from this. And then at, like, one in the morning.
[00:06:03] What happens at one in the morning, people?
[00:06:05] The chirp of the smoke detector battery dying.
[00:06:10] Motherfucker.
[00:06:12] And, like, these are not, like, these are not big things.
[00:06:16] These are just daily occurrences in our lives that with enough. Enough of them drive us mad.
[00:06:24] So at one in the morning, I'm, like, in my underwear, like, running downstairs to get the fucking ladder to bring it upstairs. And then, like, obviously, you can't find the right smoke detector the first time. So you get on the ladder and, like, my house doesn't. My house has blinds, like, in the.
[00:06:43] In the bedrooms and stuff, but, like, the hallways don't. And I'm like, oh, my God. I probably look like a. It looks like he's driving on the road, and I'm, like, on the ladder in my underwear. Like, what the.
[00:06:57] So the ladder's still upstairs. I need to replace the. The battery. But you have enough of those moments.
[00:07:06] And then the spring break and work is crazy, and I'm like, I need a break. And so that was the Vegas thing for me. And I've talked. I've talked about traveling alone a few times to you guys, but, like, to me, Vegas is my happy place. It is. Well, I love. I love gambling.
[00:07:33] I love the idea that you might come out a millionaire. I don't know. I believe that someday I will.
[00:07:43] But I love.
[00:07:45] I love also doing Vegas on my own, because you can do whatever you want. I was in bed by 10, probably every night, but I was up at, like, 5 or 6, and I was, like, showered and downstairs gambling. And I stayed at the Bellagio.
[00:08:03] But, like, the Bellagio is fucking insane. During the day, it's so crowded.
[00:08:09] Like, the gardens and the lobby and the. It's just packed and.
[00:08:15] But at six in the morning, you can walk through the garden by yourself, and it feels amazing. There's. There's music playing that's like 70s and 80s, some oldies, like, sitting with a latte at a slot machine, listening to the music, and there's nobody around.
[00:08:36] I don't smoke, so the smoke is a lot for me. So it's, like, quiet, not smoky.
[00:08:42] It's so peaceful. And I know I sound like a crazy person when I'm like, it's. Vegas is so peaceful, but I think it depends on how you do it. And I also love Vegas alone because you could sit at any bar by yourself and have an amazing fucking time. I mean, people will talk to you. You cannot talk to people. You can play keno, which I did. And I won, like, $2,000 playing Keno.
[00:09:11] And it was. It was. Because this is so silly, too. The bartender this was at the Cosmo had said, like, oh, you know, Cade Mankino's been trying to. Treating everybody really great today.
[00:09:21] And so I was like, it. I'm just gonna sit here until, like. And I. I don't know. I. I spent a little money, but played for, I don't know, 30 minutes and won $2,000. So it's also a bit of that, like, believing, like, he told. He said that I was like, oh, yeah, well, of course I'm gonna win.
[00:09:41] Yeah.
[00:09:42] And the people watching. The people watching. In Vegas, you can't make this stuff up. It is so, so good. I mean, even alone, where you have no one to be like, oh, my God, did you just see that? But even I was sitting at a bar and playing keno, and it was, like, the spot where people could come up and order drinks. And so I was just chatting it up with the bartender, this old, old guy. Not old, old, older guy. Super nice bartender. And just the people that walk up to the bar, like, the obnoxiousness. Some of them are very kind. Some of them are not.
[00:10:19] This one guy walks up and he's, like, standing behind me. He's like, bro, I just discovered. He was this, like, little white guy. I just discovered. I love really black, big women in little skirts.
[00:10:33] I like. I turn around, I just like, go, bro, you got this.
[00:10:39] Yes. Like, I love it.
[00:10:42] You know, One guy came up and he was like, it's party time. And it was probably one in the afternoon, maybe two, and he was wasted, falling down. And his poor girlfriend, or whatever she was behind it was like, trying to feed him water. And the outfits and the walk of Shames. Because also, at six in the morning, you get to see all the walk of shames.
[00:11:04] And like, this year, like, I just went. I didn't talk to any boys. I didn't do any of that. I. I have in the past. But I really was just, like, looking for an escape this trip.
[00:11:18] And so I also met this amazing couple.
[00:11:26] I was sitting at a bar for lunch, and I was just going in for a snack and a beer. Like, some bow buns and a beer. And I'm sitting at the bar, and the hostess comes up and she's like, you know, would you mind moving?
[00:11:41] And, like, seriously, there was, like, no one at the bar.
[00:11:44] There's, like, spots on both sides of me, and I'm like, okay. Like, obviously, I need to move. Somebody asked me to move. But I was, like, internally, like, super fucking annoyed.
[00:11:53] Like, you made me, like, what? I have to move down anyways. So, like, I'm just annoyed in my head. Move down.
[00:12:01] And these three people come in and sit next to me. And the. The. This girl comes up to the. You know, and she's like. She goes, oh, my God, thank you. So sorry. We're such a pain in the ass to make you move. Thank you for being flexible. You're so sweet.
[00:12:16] And immediately I was like, oh, like, no problem. And they were the nicest people.
[00:12:22] And they, like, sometimes you meet people and they just changed. They changed my trip. They introduced me to new food. And they were just genuinely the happiest, nicest, best people I've met in so long. And I'm like, God, what if. Wouldn't the world be so much better if there were more? Molly's.
[00:12:47] Her name was Molly. And they like, she. She sits down and she's like, do you like pork or do you eat pork? I'm like, yeah, I eat pork. And oh, my God, we're going to order you these ribs. I can't remember what they were called, but they were essentially like ribs. Like Chinese ribs or cream ribs. Anyways, we're going to order you these ribs. They're our favorite thing. We always order them for everybody. And I was like, no, no, no. Like, you don't have to order me. Oh, no, we're ordering these for you. And then, like, they were doing shots. You want to do shots? And I'm like, nope, I don't do shots.
[00:13:19] They must have been like, this girl is so uptight. But anyways, like, food comes for me.
[00:13:26] Food comes for them. They also ordered the ribs for their other neighbor. So now there's like, there's two, five, six of us all kind of like chatting and sharing food at the bar. Like, I didn't eat all my bao buns, so eat my bow buns. They bought me a beer, which I was like, so unnecessary. Like, they were just.
[00:13:46] Have you. Like, you meet people that just show up authentically who they are and happen to be amazing.
[00:13:55] And so, like, then the other couple crop next to them, who they bought ribs for, them buy shots for everybody. So, fine, I had a shot.
[00:14:04] And then I was telling them about this drink there, which is like a salt foam drink, and bought her husband a drink. And it was just this, like, love fest.
[00:14:16] And, like, I don't know why. I mean, like, only in Vegas I feel like, does that happen. But why can't it happen every day? Like, I don't know, maybe because it's Vegas. It feels like it's more acceptable to shad up your neighbors and share your food and hug people you just met and become Facebook friends with them immediately. And, like, they were going to a show at the Sphere, and they were like, her husband even was like, you gotta come with us. And I was like, I'm not coming. And he was like, we'll get you a ticket right Now. And I was like, they invited me to brunch the next day.
[00:14:56] I was leaving, but just amazing. So I'm gonna. I'm gonna tag Molly in this. But there needs to be more people like you guys in our world, and our world would be happier if there was more love and just genuinely happy people who want to share their lives with others.
[00:15:19] So Vegas was great. It was great. It was super chill. I ate gelato every night. I ate more food than I have eaten in probably a year.
[00:15:32] And I drank a lot. A lot of lemon drops.
[00:15:36] Celebrated a woman's 85th birthday with her. Like, random. Awesome.
[00:15:43] I left with a full heart.
[00:15:45] And, yeah, it restored my hope a little bit in people. And this. Yeah, I don't know. I just. It was awesome. It was awesome. So, as always, I would encourage you guys to do a trip. Go by yourself. Go somewhere. Go someplace that makes you uncomfortable, that makes you comfortable. That forces you to talk to other people. That allows you to go to bed at 8 if you want to go to bed and get up at 5. That.
[00:16:17] I don't know, like, there's power in that. And there. Or. Or spend a day with yourself. Take yourself on a date. There's power in choosing the things you want to do for yourself and doing them. There's power in not negotiating with others. There's power in being uncomfortable being alone. There's power in learning how to be alone, whether it's a dinner by yourself, a drink by yourself, a shopping day by yourself. Whatever. It is a trip.
[00:16:50] Yeah, I.
[00:16:52] I highly encourage it.
[00:16:55] All right, so are funny our funnies for today. I have to pull this up because there is a lot. And I don't usually post about women's profiles because normally my profiles are filled with men, but this was on a Facebook group about just kind of crazy dating profiles.
[00:17:20] This woman says, I like to watch Big Brother, the Amazing Race, and Survivor. I'm also a very pick. Picky eater. Sorry.
[00:17:30] I'm ten months sober from meth.
[00:17:36] Well, that's really good. That is great. That is. That is good news. But I'm not sure that it eats or belongs for the world to see. But maybe she's really proud of that, which I would be. I would be too.
[00:17:52] I'm a Trump supporter. And if you got the COVID vaccine, swipe left.
[00:17:57] I would like to have another baby. So if you don't swipe left, dude, no one's even met you yet. They don't want to have your be your baby daddy.
[00:18:09] Okay. I'm in the middle of a divorce, so I'm technically still married. But not for luck.
[00:18:15] Yeah, she's got a lot going for her.
[00:18:22] This was, like, from that same Facebook page.
[00:18:24] And this guy. This is just annoying. This guy says, text me if you want to talk.
[00:18:29] I don't have the paid service, so I can't respond to likes. Educator, athletic background, enjoys exercise and intellectual engagement.
[00:18:41] Like me. Or text.
[00:18:43] If interested in talking, send me a message. Or, like, if you want to talk.
[00:18:48] I'm not subscribed to this account.
[00:18:51] Message me. I can't see likes if you want to talk. Bro, we got it on the first time you said it. We know how apps work. Like, maybe no one just want. Maybe no one wants to talk to you. Maybe that's what's happening. You don't need to, like, Uber explain it.
[00:19:12] I wish I could. Like, I might have to start sharing some of these backgrounds or photos on my Instagram too. But this guy, he is 54. And his background, there is, like a TV, a door, paper towels. It just looks like a gross kind of like, apartment. Like, has TVs in this kitchen. I'm not sure what's happening with that. But he's. He's.
[00:19:40] Yeah, Backwards hats, wearing a wife beater.
[00:19:45] And he says, love women only interested in meeting up, not just chatting without intention. Want friends with benefits. A hookup, long or short term is okay with me. One.
[00:20:01] One stands, five night stands, not desperate. So you must look good to me. Like, what the fuck does that even mean?
[00:20:10] One stands, five night stands, not desperate. See, I just. These profiles, they're horrible. They're horrible.
[00:20:22] Wait, sorry, there's one more.
[00:20:24] This is Matt. If you can't handle me raw dogging the vibes, then you definitely can't handle me raw dogging you.
[00:20:33] Like, seriously, I don't even know what raw dogging the vibes mean.
[00:20:39] Like, I don't. And then raw dog. Oh, my God. So disgusting. My love language is leaving handprints and bite marks. Kissy face.
[00:20:48] Oh, my God. I. Yeah.
[00:20:54] Does any. Does anyone find that attractive?
[00:20:59] And if you know what raw dogging the vibes are, by all means, please let me know. Anyways, you guys, as always, I appreciate everybody listening.
[00:21:11] And book the trip. Go do something fun.
[00:21:14] Love your life.
[00:21:16] And a big shout out to my new bestie, Molly.
[00:21:22] Thank you for making Vegas so much fun. All right, you guys, I'll talk to you next week.
