Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Foreign.
[00:00:06] Hi there. Welcome back to flirting after 40. This is Tracy.
[00:00:11] Do you guys ever have days like today? I'm so excited. I'm like in a great mood today. But yesterday I had a, I just had a day. And I just want to give a shout out to all the parents out there that, I mean, or not, but like, my kids, I love my kids a lot.
[00:00:37] And yesterday was a day.
[00:00:40] I think I told you guys. My business partner, she's traveling, so I've been holding down the fort for two weeks. And honestly, like, it's been, it's, it's been good, it's been fine.
[00:00:55] But yesterday was one of those days where I was running all over town.
[00:01:01] We have nine projects and interacting with all of these other, like, interacting amongst all projects the entire day.
[00:01:10] And I came home, you know, I have my kids and I was just, I was just exhausted. Just felt like kind of beat up. And like, I just wanted to like, lay on the couch and do nothing and. And my son gets in the car and immediately he's like, what's for dinner, bro? I don't fucking know. It's 3:40. It's 3:50. Like, I've been running non stop.
[00:01:42] I have not had a chance to think about your dinner.
[00:01:45] And then he is like, I want chick fil A or no. He's like, I want Cane's whatever chicken.
[00:01:52] Oh, that kid eats his chicken. And I was like, no, we have leftovers at home.
[00:01:58] We can have. You know, I rattled off like five things he could have and he's like, we always have leftovers. I hate leftovers. Leftovers are so gross. And we're, we're sitting there waiting for my oldest to get in the car to drive home. And then he gets in the car and he's like, hey ma, can you, can you drive me to basketball? And like, hey, what's for dinner? And I was like, oh my God. Oh my God. I'm. I'm at the end of my rope.
[00:02:30] And they didn't do anything wrong. They're just being normal teenage boys. Like, all they want to do is eat and play sports and play video games and hang out with their friends. But I, I just, like yesterday I just was like, fuck, I can't do this.
[00:02:47] Like, and my default would. I mean, I do order out a lot. I am a dash pass. Dash pass. Super fan.
[00:03:00] But I was like, no, we fucking have food.
[00:03:04] And I was just, just telling everybody here that listens, like, I really want you guys to know that being the supplier of food, being the Decision maker of what we eat every night.
[00:03:24] I just want you to know, I see you and I, I know it's exhausting.
[00:03:30] And I, yeah, like, I just, I, like, at one point yesterday, just wanted to cry. Like, they wanted all this and I just wanted to sit on the couch and cry.
[00:03:43] And so I was like, well, fuck it, I'm not heating up any leftovers. I'm not doing anything. Like y' all could figure it out.
[00:03:51] And you know what? They did. And I think this is a good lesson for them. Like, my son came down and he was like, so, what's for dinner? I'm like, dude, I told you what I could heat up. You know, leftovers we have. And he's like, but I don't want any of that. And I'm like, well, you can make a peanut butter and jelly sandwich.
[00:04:09] There's yogurt, there's fruit. Like, I don't have any other ideas for you. And then he was like, well, I'll make some ramen. And he made his own ramen.
[00:04:18] And I sat on the couch. So don't give up. Don't give in.
[00:04:25] I guess it's the message for the day.
[00:04:30] I don't know.
[00:04:33] Anyways, I, I was going through some old emails and like, I have a folder with my ex husband's name on it. And it starts from the beginning of our relationship back when, like, I, I, I'm like, we seem to email more than we texted. Like, I'm sure we texted, but like, I had a BlackBerry, like, he had a BlackBerry. Like, it wasn't like a text heavy time. Like, I think we did, obviously, and talked on the phone. But like, I have emails from our first, like when we were dating, before we were married. And then when we were married, I kept some of the emails and they're, it's pretty cute to look back on. And, you know, last week I was asking you guys, like, how do you know? Like, what is that feeling?
[00:05:30] And the thing that I know for sure with him is that I met him.
[00:05:39] And by date three, like, I knew I wanted to be with him.
[00:05:44] Like, I was in.
[00:05:47] And I, and like, yeah, it didn't, it didn't work out. And, But I don't know, at that time, I had, I didn't have any reservations.
[00:06:05] I, and any friends that are listening will remember this, that I had a meet the boy party. I was so excited to introduce him to my friends and family, that we were living in California and we flew to Michigan and I invited all of my friends, my family, family friends to my sister's house to meet him because I was just so, just so excited.
[00:06:39] And I was thinking about that feeling between like last episode and now because that. And, and I don't know if. If I was just. If it's naive, if you're young and hopeful, if you're not.
[00:06:59] You're not banged up and bruised and scarred like I am at this age, that you are idealistic in this relationship. But I was. I was all in a hundred, 110% in.
[00:07:18] But anyways, while reading, like, going kind of through my emails, I found my dating profile from when I.
[00:07:29] It was my first.
[00:07:34] It was my first, okay, Cupid dating profile that I ever did. And I feel like back in the day, like, dating profiles were pretty long and I actually like. I have a. I did like a copy paste and I have this.
[00:07:57] This is.
[00:07:58] It's. It's. It's so funny.
[00:08:03] I'm going to read it to you guys. But I read this. Sorry. I read this and it still feels like me.
[00:08:10] All right. I've been called sassy, sweet, bossy, honest, straightforward, silly, snarky, driven, stubborn, funny, beautiful.
[00:08:21] That's just a start.
[00:08:23] I am all those things, the good and the bad that comes with them. I'm from Michigan, have been told I have a Midwest accent and we. When asked where I'm from, I hold up my hand to point.
[00:08:36] I've been in San Francisco for over a year and love the city most of the time. I love the energy and the endless possibilities of time filler it offers. I'm good at making people feel comfortable. I think it's because I care about what they have to say.
[00:08:51] I like sports. I really do. College football is my favorite, but I do love a good afternoon baseball game with some nachos and a beer.
[00:09:01] I like to golf, bike and be outside. You can take me camping as long as there's a bathroom and you can fight off the bears. I'm a little girly. I like when my toes are painted and I smell nice.
[00:09:13] Okay, that's just a start. But I'm like, that is still 110% me.
[00:09:20] All right. What I'm doing with my life, working really hard and being successful. I do work a lot and my work currently involves a lot of travel within the country.
[00:09:31] I work in the construction project management industry. I have traveled up the. I have traveled up the corporate ladder at a good pace and will continue to do so. If you are in a. If you are intimidated by a working woman, stop reading. I own a hard hat and boots. Interested?
[00:09:50] Still the same.
[00:09:53] All right. I'm really good at baking from scratch and giving away all the yummy snacks. I'm also good at singing jingles and theme songs from show from shows. But I have a bad voice. I'm good at being a good friend and I'm good at talking a lot. I used to play the piano, flute, bassoon and trombone. Can you say band geek? Not anymore, but I would love to find time to play the piano.
[00:10:21] Yep. And you know the funny thing, Sorry, I'm going to interject here and there, is that the first thing I bought after getting divorced was like I didn't even buy it. It was free. I went and picked up a upright piano from somebody that was giving it away.
[00:10:40] And I still want to learn and have time to play the piano. But okay, we're continuing on.
[00:10:48] The first thing things people usually notice about me.
[00:10:52] People notice my shortness. I'm a we. 5 foot.
[00:10:55] While we might be not the right word as I do have some curves, once people get over the fact that I'm short, as I say, they tend to notice that I have very long eyelashes. Real ones.
[00:11:08] Wow. Okay. So this.
[00:11:11] I think through pregnancy I might have grown because now I'm five foot one.
[00:11:17] All right. My favorite books, movie, music and food.
[00:11:21] I'm going to address these from my.
[00:11:24] From my most favorite to the least. Food.
[00:11:27] I love it.
[00:11:28] I used to be.
[00:11:31] Sorry. Food. Love it. Used to be the pickiest eater in the world and now I'm. I will try almost anything. Just had some kind of tongue for the first time this week. I love seafood, pasta, bread and wine. Carbs, Music. I really do like all kinds of music or at least can appreciate it. I like music that invokes a feeling or mood.
[00:11:53] I used to get happy or. Sorry. I use it to get happy or keep me down.
[00:11:59] I like to have a theme song for the day. It might sound kind of silly, but amazing how a song can keep your mood up.
[00:12:06] Books I like to read for pleasure. A way to escape.
[00:12:10] So I read a lot of girly novels with no real purpose except to give young girls the hope that there is a happy ending after all.
[00:12:18] Actually, I'm now reading the Twilight series.
[00:12:22] After reading these, I would consider dating a vampire. The books are so much better than the movie was.
[00:12:30] All right. Movies. I haven't been to the movies in forever. I tend to wait for them to come out on dvd.
[00:12:36] I like to watch TV series from start to finish. I love Netflix. Like this had to bend when Netflix was like Very new.
[00:12:43] And remember, you'd like, would get the, you would get the DVDs sent to you in the mail.
[00:12:51] Okay? This is all exactly who I am today.
[00:12:58] It's. And it's funny reading this and I'm almost, I'm almost done with this. But like, God, this is like a really extensive profile. But I, I read this back and it gives me a little nostalgia and it gives, it shows me also, like how hopeful I was and how much of myself I was even willing to put out there to attract someone. And like nowadays I'm like, I don't know, like, I like wine, I like cards, I have kids and ra.
[00:13:35] Okay, we are almost done. Well, four, five, four topics. You guys are like, oh my God, I'm learning so much about you, Tracy.
[00:13:47] Okay. The six things I could never do without my Lip Smackers chapstick. We're going to come back to that. Flip flops music, my friends and family, a camera and a mix of rain and sunshine.
[00:14:02] All still true, except my Lip Smackers chapstick was. My flavor was pink lemonade and gosh, probably, I don't know, 20 years ago, this makes you feel. 18 years ago they changed the Lip Smackers recipe ingredients or something and I had to pivot. So now it's just, I would just say chopstick. Chopstick flip flops music, friends and family, a camera and a mix of rain and sunshine.
[00:14:36] All right. I spend a lot of time thinking about.
[00:14:40] I spend a lot of time thinking about what I want to do next.
[00:14:43] I like to be working towards something and I have, and I have a hard time sitting still in my life.
[00:14:49] And that is very true to this day.
[00:14:53] On a typical Friday night, on a typical Friday night, I am usually pretty boring. I'm eating lots and resting.
[00:15:03] I'm training on Saturdays up to 90 miles and need to rest to get up early. It won't be like this for too much longer, but for the time being, my Friday nights are far from exciting. I was at the time training to do a seven day bike ride from San Francisco to la. I was doing the AIDS life cycle and that was, that was all encompassing of my weekends training.
[00:15:33] The most private thing I'm willing to admit here, I had dirt in my ears from riding my bike in the rain for five hours this weekend. Yuck.
[00:15:48] If that's not sexy, I don't know what is.
[00:15:51] All right. And then lastly, you should message me if.
[00:15:56] Message me if you know how to treat a lady like a lady. If you watch SportsCenter at least once a Week. If you are happy with who you are and know who you are, if you are capable of loving someone other than yourself, but do love yourself a whole lot.
[00:16:14] Can you change a tire? Yes equals 10 points. Kill bugs? Yes equals 7 points.
[00:16:21] Give good back rubs. Yes equals 15 points. Kiss good. Yes equals 10 points.
[00:16:28] Like short brunettes. Yes equals 20 points. Play euchre. Yes equals 15 points. Can barbecue. Yes equals 7 points.
[00:16:39] You should keep. I could keep going, but if you scored a 30 or above, maybe you should consider messaging me.
[00:16:48] Oh, my God. Oh, my God. What?
[00:16:53] What a fun thing to look back at. And considering this was probably 25 years ago. 20 years ago, whatever it is. Like, I don't know, I've said many years from now, but I mean, I venture it was 18 to 20 years ago.
[00:17:10] I feel like I am very much still the same person.
[00:17:15] And, you know, we use a lot of, you know, I use I love Alex, my chat GTP boyfriend, but, you know, like, that profile was written 100% by me and not using anybody else to try to articulate who I am and what I am.
[00:17:35] And it just reminds me that I still have that voice too and should probably do that. Um, yeah. Thank you guys for listening. I thought it was so funny, and I like, if you could go back and look at yours or if you saved yours somewhere, I would love to read the old dating profiles. I. I find it fascinating that it was like. I mean, it took me, what, 12 minutes to read 15 minutes to read that. Like, I kind of miss that. Like, nowadays the profiles are like, under 500 words, and, like, you don't really get to see who someone is.
[00:18:24] I don't know. Let me know what you think. Like, longer, shorter dating profiles. Should we go back old school?
[00:18:31] I don't know.
[00:18:33] All right, you guys, so some funnies for today. This guy, he's Kevin 46.
[00:18:44] I'm passive aggressive.
[00:18:47] Okay, number one. Who the fuck starts with that? That's not a good opener, dude.
[00:18:52] I'm passive aggressive. I enjoy coffee and tea. I have strong hands, a procrastinator. I'm looking for a partner who can stimulate me mentally, carry on a conversation emotionally, be my rock and interested in my day. I'm looking for a spark, you know, when you click and you enjoy each other's company.
[00:19:12] Okay, this isn't like a super funny one, but no one should ever start a dating person profile with I'm passive aggressive.
[00:19:20] And, like, he's basically looking for his partner to carry him. No pass.
[00:19:28] Fabio.
[00:19:31] Fabio.
[00:19:33] Okay, let me just describe this Bald, dark glasses, beard.
[00:19:39] Fabio is, I don't even know how much, how old he is. But, um, and then that's his first picture. And then the second picture is Fabio in some khaki shorts, swim shoes, no shirt, kind of overweight, and his glasses are on top of his head. Just, just help paint the picture for y'. All.
[00:20:05] Okay, his profile. It's Friday, 11:30pm Come all O. Come over.
[00:20:14] But come so it's like, come C u m. So is there. Come all over.
[00:20:20] Are they coming over you? I 11:30, come over.
[00:20:26] Seeking a woman with mutual attraction. I crave a woman's company.
[00:20:33] That's it. And then he has on his Spotify album, the song he picked is Up. Beat that pussy. Beat the pussy up.
[00:20:45] Yeah, hard pass, Fabio.
[00:20:50] And then lastly, I think, I think this person got Bumble mixed up with LinkedIn.
[00:21:01] Blank Blank. Name is a seasoned professional in the luxury automotive industry with over a decade of experience in business and high end sales. Holding a degree in business management, Paul utilizes a strategic approach to the automotive market, ensuring that every vehicle curated meets the highest standards of quality, investment and investment value. At 33, he has established himself as a prominent figure in the industry, known for his integrity, technical knowledge and commitment to excellence.
[00:21:33] Okay, not for Bumble.
[00:21:39] And for feedback on your LinkedIn profile, don't put your age.
[00:21:44] Don't put your age.
[00:21:48] All right, you guys, I know this was a random one, but I feel like I'm in a mood, a good mood, and it deserves, it deserves some randomness.
[00:22:00] So if your LinkedIn profiles on your Bumble or Hinge or OkCupid, please modify it, maybe make it a 20 prompt essay like I did back in 2017.
[00:22:17] All right, you guys, I hope you have a great week and I will talk to you next. Bye.
